Outline

  • Introduction/Overview:
  • Understanding and Making Peace with Religion
    • Why are people religious?
    • How does Mormon conversion happen?What do/did you love about being Mormon? (and why this matters)
    • Understanding Identity Development and why this Matters
  • Why are Mormons having faith crises?
    • Stereotypes, An Overview
    • Overall trends (Pew), Rise of the Nones, Generational trends
    • Why/how does a faith crisis happen?  Categories of reasons
      • Historical reasons
      • Social justice reasons
      • Spiritual reasons
      • Ecclesiastical reasons/abuse
    • Understanding De-Conversion
  • What is the impact of a faith crisis?
    • What are the most difficult aspects of a faith crisis?
    •  Individual
      • Mental health
      • Identity
      • Morality
      • Spirituality
      • Existential
      • Meaning/purpose
    •  Familial
      • Marriage
      • Raising Children
      • Extended family
    • Social/Community – Faith Crisis in the Context of Community
      • Ward
    • What are common pitfalls for people experiencing a faith crisis?
    • What is the role of grief/grieving during a faith crisis? (Stages of grief)
    • Getting triggered (Lizard brain, PTSD)
    • What are the positive aspects of a faith crisis?
  • Strategies
    • Individual
      • Take it slow
      • Staying in the closet
      • Role of emotions
      • Rewiring the brain
      • Getting perspective
        • Not apologizing
        • Gaining confidence
      • How people think of us (Nephi Effect)
      • College spring break/rumspringa/party time
      • Feeling cheated, wanting young adulthood back
      • How can I best practice self-care during a faith crisis?
      • Filling the Holes
        • Who am I/what is my identity after a faith crisis?
        • How can I cultivate spirituality after a faith crisis?
          • Should I consider other churches/religions after a faith crisis?
          • Secular church
        • How should I approach morality/ethics/values after a faith crisis?
        • Retaining/changing basic Mormon beliefs:
          • What about God?
          • What about Jesus?
          • What about Joseph Smith?
          • What about the Bible?
          • What about the Book of Mormon?
        • How do I deal with death/afterlife during and after a faith crisis?
          • Living to die vs. living in the moment.
          • Not knowing
        • What are common issues around sexuality that people in faith crisis experience?
        • How do I approach charity/service after a faith crisis?
        • How might I approach Sundays during and after a faith crisis?
        • How do I maintain or improve my mental health after a faith crisis?
        • What is the purpose/meaning of life after a faith crisis?
        • How do i construct a new community after a faith crisis?
        • Physical Health
          • What should my relationships with coffee, tea, alcohol, and drugs be after a faith crisis?
    • Church
      • Can I remain active in the LDS church after a faith crisis?  If so, how?  Cost/benefit
      • Buffet/Big Tent Mormonism
      • Understanding Tribal Dynamics
      • Seeing the value of religion
      • Dealing with leadership
      • The Love Bomb
      • Being talked about in Ward Council
      • Callings
      • Temple recommend
      • Tithing
      • Garments
    • Communicating with Believing Family and Friends
      • How do I “come out” (to spouse, children, parents, extended family, friends) during a faith crisis?
      • Expect crickets (no response)
      • Resolving conflict
      • Finding Common Ground
      • Do unto others
      • Backfire effect
      • The Nephi effect
      • The tendency to use inflammatory language
      • The pros/cons of discussing Mormonism in a “CULT” framework.
      • What do I do with stereotypes often foisted upon those in faith crisis?
    • Marriage
      • Fundamentals of Emotional Intimacy
      • Communicate with your Primary Partner
      • How do I preserve/strengthen my marriage during a faith crisis?
      • What if my spouse and I are different pages during my faith crisis?
      • Mixed faith marriage
      • Separation in a faith crisis
      • Divorce in a faith crisis.
      • How do I handle family relationships after a faith crisis?
      • Polyamory/Non-Monogamy
    • Parenting/Family Life
      • How can I raise healthy/happy kids after a faith crisis?
      • How do I strengthen our family after a faith crisis?
      • How to communicate with believing family and friends.
      • What if my/our children remain active/believing in the church after my faith crisis?
      • What if my kids choose to serve a mission?
      • Tips for social media during a faith crisis?
    • How do I handle friendships after a faith crisis?
    • Community
    • Sexuality
  • Other
    • Re-negotiating gender roles
    • Re-building a life
    • Rebuilding a career
    • LGBT issues
    • Are Mormon apologetics useful in a faith crisis?
    • What resources are helpful for a faith crisis?
    • Being single in a faith crisis.
    • Tips for social media during a faith crisis?
    • Common topics
      • Alcohol/drugs
      • Polyamory (non-monogamy)
      • Fundamentalism
      • Science worship
      • Unkindness/anger
    • When spouse or kids remain believing/active
    • Kids on missions with non-believing parents
    • Sitting outside temple
    • Issues for military veterans
    • Being a post-Mormon in Utah.  Pros and cons.