Assessing the Mormon Church Using Steven Hassan’s BITE Model for Cults

Steven Hassan is the world’s leading expert in cults.  He wrote a book called “Combating Cult Mind Control,” which provides a framework for assessing how cult-like an organization is (or isn’t).  He has developed the BITE Model – which categorizes cult-like behavior into four domains: Behavior Control, Information Control, Thought Control, and Emotional Manipulation and Control. While most experts agree that …

Benefits of a Mormon Faith Crisis – The Mega List

Friends – So many Mormons I meet experience significant fear when they go through a faith crisis – and yet so many of us who have successfully made it through a Mormon faith crisis will claim that it’s one of the best things that’s ever happened to us. So…..I think we should work together to see if we can collectively …

Steps for Organizing a Mormon Faith Crisis Workshop/Retreat

For the past few years we have organized several very successful workshops and retreats to support Mormons in faith crisis/transition.  These events are consistently rated 4.9 out of 5.0, and we are continually told that they have been incredibly valuable in domains such as: Helping to save marriages, including mixed-faith marriages. Helping to rebuild lives during and after a faith …

How Religions Develop

Many (most?) world religions seem to fit a similar formation pattern: The human condition: As humans, we have brains capable of complex thoughts, emotions, relationships, etc.  The birthplace of religion (in my view) begins with our feeling lonely and afraid/vulnerable, worrying about our safety and the safety of family and friends, wondering about the meaning and purpose of life, seeking …

Why are people religious?

What in the world has made religion such a fixed and compelling part of human existence? In my experience, people are religious for one or more of the following reasons: Birth: They are born into it, and thus are indoctrinated to believe and obey at a very young age by their parents, extended family, and surrounding communities. Tribalism/Community:  Animals often …

The Gift of a Religious Faith Crisis

When you first experience a religious faith crisis, it can feel like a terrible nightmare — like your world has literally fallen apart.   It may feel for a time like you are lost, broken, and irreparably damaged.  In a word, a religious faith crisis can feel utterly devastating. And please don’t misunderstand me.  There are countless deaths that you will …

Top 10 Movies that Parallel a Religious Faith Crisis

Some of the most powerful and healing experiences I have had during and after my religious faith crisis have been at the movie theater.  In short, there are several movies that (for me) parallel(ed) my process of losing my faith in orthodox Mormonism.  Here is a list of my top 10 favorite movies that for me, serve as powerful metaphors …

Launching Mormon Faith Crisis: A Practical Guide

I am so excited to be launching this project, mormonfaithcrisis.com, in partnership with John and Margi Dehlin! John and I have been partnering on all kinds of podcasts, events, workshops, networking and so forth in regards to our work with faith transitions and faith crisis for almost ten years now. Pretty much from the beginning… we talked about doing something …

What do/did you love about being Mormon? (and why this matters)

When navigating a Mormon faith crisis/transition, I believe that it is crucial to spend some quality time acknowledging all that you like(d), love(d), and gain(ed) from being Mormon.  There are several reasons that I feel this is important: Gratitude – Gratitude is essential for many reasons. It is associated with positive mental and physical health. It is an important “spiritual” …